- Is inflicting pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your dominance? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your dominance, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?
Spanking is a cross over area for me. I am an active BDSM enthusiast, as well as the Master of my slave, and the head of my Household. As a BDSM practitioner I frequently inflict pain and humiliation, but only within negotiated boundaries. As the Dominant, I really dislike punishment, and reserve it for deliberate acts, here is how I describe it in my household manual:
CORRECTION AND PUNISHMENT:
We assume that those who wish to be in service to the Holding also wish to perform tasks to the best of their ability. Service in the Holding at Joyous Reach is not a game wherein the member intentionally makes errors to attract attention or to provoke an S&M scene. Therefore, if a family member fails at a task, or mode of behavior or speech, we assume that the failure is due to a lack of understanding or instruction, and they are given additional instruction.
If there is a repeated failure of the same task or mode of behavior the member will be instructed again, and a mild, reinforcing correction, related to the failure, will be enacted. Additional failure will evoke a more severe consequences. If the member can still not perform the task properly, they will be denied the opportunity to provide that particular service either for a specified period of time, or forever.
Punishment is reserved for deliberate disrespect or disobedience, and will not be confused with S&M play; they will be designed to be unpleasant. Punishment may or may not be corporeal in nature, and will be decided by the high lord or his designated representative.